Couples
You want to improve your marriage, or Save Your Marriage Before It Starts.
Maybe you feel stuck or that you have lost that spark. Maybe your marriage is in a good place and could be better, or you are in a really rocky place.
What you need is to learn the skills to connect and relate with each other, to learn how to be vulnerable with each other, to be seen, and how to validate and affirm each other.
Too often, the busyness of life gets in the way of what made it worth living. You got into this marriage for a reason, and that reason gets buried. Maybe trust was broken and needs to be rebuilt.
Our culture has devalued marriage and all that goes into making it great.
Wounds occur in every marriage, some deeper than others, and we all know what happens when we ignore them: the same as if it was a physical wound. Properly caring for the hurts, the misunderstandings, and even betrayal is the only path to healing.
If you are restoring the relationship after a betrayal, you will be rebuilding trust and safety. You’ll learn to show empathy and understand your spouse’s perspective without going into shame.
Maybe your marriage is healthy, and you want to move from good to great. We will work on communication skills and emotional connection.
The first step is understanding what went wrong. Oftentimes, the hurt we experience in marriage actually originated from outside and before the marriage, like an invisible suitcase filled with our life’s experiences, and this is especially true of betrayal.
Lack of communication is the number one thing that gets in the way of a good marriage, and that’s why we start here first. I’ll offer strategies for effective conflict resolution and rebuilding trust and safety. I’ll teach empathy so you can understand your spouse’s perspective.
If you are both committed and do the work, you will learn how to connect and communicate in ways you have never before; you will experience deeper intimacy.
Are you ready to work toward your ideal relationship?
Schedule a CallPre-Marital and Marriage
Marriage and Couples Treatment
Traditional methods of treatment for sex addiction recovery or couples work involves a philosophy of each taking a singular path e.g. a parallel path if you will. This path frowns upon any kind of intersection between couples. The down side to this is when healing from the damage of sexually compulsive behavior, and relational trauma and betrayal is research shows, treatment requires 3-5 years to the final stages of recovery. Because parallel lines never intersect, some marriages don’t survive due to a continued disconnectedness between the couple.
At the root of addiction is typically an attachment and intimacy disorder. Bringing into focus the “partner perspective” and early couples work by placing the couple ship at the center of treatment. By using an attachment based, emotionally focused, and internal family systems approach, addicts can learn to inoculate their shame through emotional connection. This is the place where trust begins to grow, healing occurs, and addicts are able to help her heal reaching new levels of connection.
For Him: 2 Freedom
Shame feels blameworthy, lonely and isolating. Shame is the belief that at our very core, we are unacceptable and unlovable. Learn self-compassion, mindfulness, and the art of shame resilience through this 10 week course.
The perfect person for this group is an SA who is currently working with a CSAT and/or program to address addict’s sexual compulsive behavior. Must have good sobriety and recovery.
The Couple: 2 Connect
A 12 week group focused on healing after discovery of your spouse's compulsive sexual behavior. learning to communicate, show empathy, build trust, and help her heal. Understand how she is feeling. Hear and validate the pain she is experiencing without going to shame. These are the first steps to rebuilding trust in your relationship.
Prerequisite for course: Attend the Courageous group prior to the 2Connect group. The courageous group will prepare SA’s for this work. Purchase and read Help Her Heal empathy workbook by Carol Jergensen Sheets prior group starting. We will work through the workbook Wives will need to register for the Healing Hearts women’s group that will run concurrently with 2Connect group. The first few sessions are with the men only then wives come into the group setting and begin implementing newly learned tools.
Pre-marital & Marriage Coaching
Whether you are newly engaged and want to set you and your future spouse up for success Or you're already married and things are going well, but you want it to be great….Jumpstart and revive your marriage. Experience greater intimacy and connection.
Using the SYMBIS method for Marriage and Premarital coaching.